Day 3: AUTHENTICITY (The July “I Believe…” Challenge)

by Dani Fake Webb on July 3, 2010

(If you’re new to this challenge, take a look at the intro video explaining the concept.
You can get more details on how to participate.
And click here for the daily categories.)

Today’s Category: Authenticity

I encourage you to comment on this post about what you believe about authenticity. 😉

What I believe about authenticity:

Authenticity is one of my highest values. But what does it look like?

Part One:

Authenticity looks like real emotion, but that emotion does not steal from another.
Authenticity looks like presence, but that presence does not dominate a moment.
Authenticity looks like openness, but that openness does not “vomit” itself over others.

Vulnerability + boundaries + a dash of sense of self.


I believe authenticity is inspirational.
It makes others feel good.
It instills trustworthiness.

Part Two:

As I write this post this morning, I find myself circling back to Day 1 of this challenge: the topic of Purpose. I wrote that I believe my purpose is to help others discover who they were created to be. And the post by Laura Neff on that same topic helped me to further clarify what I believe about purpose:

The purpose of each of us is to allow our full potential to unfold. In other words, to be WHO WE ARE. You (and me) are created to be the best YOU you can be. THAT is each person’s purpose.

Living my full potential is helping others work through the barriers that get in the way of living their full potential ~ addressing the things that get in the way of them being who they were created to be.

But this is not a post on purpose. 😛 Here’s the connection to authenticity:

Striving to live your purpose (which is to be the best YOU you can be) is possibly the best definition of authenticity I can think of.

What could be more beautiful?

(And thank you Laura Neff. Once again you have helped me know myself better.)

Until next time, may you love your life today.


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Renae C. July 3, 2010 at 2:58 pm
Melissa Foster Cook July 3, 2010 at 7:30 pm

Once again, Dani. Your post ROCKS. I especially love:
“Authenticity looks like real emotion, but that emotion does not steal from another.
Authenticity looks like presence, but that presence does not dominate a moment.
Authenticity looks like openness, but that openness does not “vomit” itself over others.
Vulnerability + boundaries + a dash of sense of self.”

Good stuff:)

My post on authenticity:

Kaitlin July 4, 2010 at 5:52 am

I believe authenticity is honesty and openness in both words and actions. I believe we are most authentic when we are exhausted, or when we are speaking in the dark and cannot see the face of the person we are speaking with. I believe authenticity makes us vulnerable to both the positive and the negative. I believe that it is an enormous challenge to be this honest, especially because our authentic selves are ever-changing and altered by circumstances. I believe that teachers and parents and bosses and children should all have the opportunity to see the same individual—that each of the components that come together to make me as a person should present a united front to the world.

Laura Neff - Life Leadership Coach July 4, 2010 at 1:06 pm

YES! I couldn’t write my authenticity post without linking back to Purpose either, Dani! I love how we’re all informing and expanding one another already in this challenge. Woohoo!


Jennifer July 4, 2010 at 2:33 pm

Authenticity is living one’s personal truth. Many people do not even know that they are living an inauthentic life until a situation causes them enough pain that the truth can no longer be ignored.

When I am aware of my thoughts and feelings, I become more authentic. Society’s mindset of putting myself last actually leads me away from my Authentic Self. When I am concerned about others’ authenticity, I am less authentic. Why? Because the focus is on looking outward instead of looking inward.

With this blog exercise, I am trying to develop my writing voice, which is a physical manifestation of my authenticity. It is much harder than I thought, which really excites me. I know I am moving closer to my Authentic Self.

Kirk Webb July 4, 2010 at 6:29 pm

I believe that we are to live in the paradox of being both individuals and in relationships. I believe that authenticity arises from both of those dynamics. Individually, our authenticity grows from our calm and peaceful self that is not blown about by fear, anxiety, and manipulation. Our authentic self is strong, confident, capable, vulnerable, peaceful. We are also defined in relationship to others. In this light, authenticity is facing the “other” without manipulation and with loving intention. Authenticity is remaining myself as I encounter others meaningfully.

Cain July 6, 2010 at 12:13 am

I believe that my authentic self is my true self, myself in the raw. In order to be authentic and true in life I can’t be concerned with how my actions will affect others.

WinneratLife July 8, 2010 at 2:52 am

I believe authenticity is the result of being true to your spiritual inner compass. It’s what we get and give when we do or say what feels right/best/good at the core of our being in any situation, regardless of what others think, regardless of whether it’s hard or easy, regardless of what we think we ‘should’ do or be. And I think our authentic selves are always kind and loving and supportive – toward ourselves and toward others. Saying or doing hurtful things under the guise of being ‘authentic’, being ‘real’ or telling the ‘truth’ isn’t authentic at all.

You are only responsible for how YOU live and how YOU feel and you should therefore focus your energy on being the best YOU that you can be and let others do the same. Understanding and living that ‘truth’ is the epitome of authenticity.

Dani Fake Webb July 12, 2010 at 9:52 pm

Amen, sister. Amen.

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