FEAR (Day 12: The July “I Believe…” Challenge)

by Dani Fake Webb on July 12, 2010

Today’s Category: Fear

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It feels like there is so much to say about fear that I don’t even know where to begin.

Fear can be crippling.
Fear can be live-saving.
Fear can prevent a well-lived life.
Fear can prevent emotions from being felt.
Fear can keep us addicted.
Fear can keep us stuck.
Fear can make us isolated.
Fear can make us irrational.
Fear is hidden by anger.
Fear is hidden by withdrawal.

Overall, fear is powerful.


As I look at the picture on the right, I am filled with emotion. She is a picture of raw fear. Not angry or addicted fear, but pure, raw emotion.

It makes me hurt. I wonder if it’s because I relate to her.

If you listened to my call on “Who’s Driving the Bus of Your Life?” (click the link if you’d like to hear the recording), you know that I talk about the idea of “parts” that live inside of us. The little girl pictured here represents the scared, vulnerable part of me. Notice how she looks like a child, but if you look more closely, her features have a maturity to them. Yet she is terrified.

And sad. She looks so very sad.

Fear can take many forms (fear of committing, fear of doing the next big thing in your life, fear of being eaten by a bear, etc.). But no fear is as big as the fear represented by this little girl.

Pure unadulterated fear.

We all have it on some level. We have all been harmed at crucial junctures in our lives, resulting in the “birth” of a part of us that looks something like this little girl.

And I believe that one of best gifts we can give ourselves is to get to know this little girl (or little boy). It is one of the grandest acts of love we can perform in this lifetime. She holds so much information about our lives. And so many of our other “parts” exist to protect her. This is a good thing, except when it’s not. Often times these parts prevent us from living the life we are created to live.

It is the vulnerable, terrified, young parts of us that need the love and connection with our adult, Authentic Selves.

And it is my belief that part of our work in this world is to love the little one that lives in us. Do you know her? Will you get to know her? It may be the greatest thing you’ll ever do.

Until next time, may you love your life (and your fearful child) today.



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Kirk Webb July 13, 2010 at 2:53 pm

I believe that fear is quite natural. Fight or flight is written into our DNA. Fear is usually based on our anxieties about non-existence (i.e. death). When something we hold sacred (ex. our lives or sense of well-being) is threatened then we’re scared. That feeling can be a great avenue toward self-understanding and mature decision-making or it can become a debilitating emotion that leads to dysfunctional choices.

Annie Wolfe July 16, 2010 at 12:29 pm

I believe fear has been the largest, controlling emotion in my past, and that learning to let it in, accept it’s realness, and BE with it has revolutionized my existence.

Learning that my Authentic Self is not afraid, was a great turning point for me.

I believe I have lost much because of fear.

I believe that what I have learned about fear will exponentially make up for what I have lost.

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