LOVE (Day 18: The July “I Believe…” Challenge)

by Dani Fake Webb on July 18, 2010

Today’s Category: Love

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FOOD SEASON-BEETS CSI love this topic (no pun intended – haha.) I believe that although “love” is one of the most diluted words in the English language (I mean, how do you love both beets and another human being??), the concept of love is the most powerful force available to humanity.

What love means to me – a personal journey

For the past several years, I have been on quite a spiritual journey. My faith has run the gamut from a devout evangelical Christian whose quest it was to convert people to the faith, to a near-atheist who thought religion was simply a psychological construct for humans to explain trauma and have hope in a cruel world.

There are lots of reasons why this shift occurred, and it caused a major upheaval in my internal life, as well as the loss of some friends.

Today, I consider myself neither evangelical nor atheist. I am still journeying (and, quite frankly, struggling) toward landing on what I really believe (more on that on Day 27, when the topic is “Spirituality). I am still working out what it really means to be a Christian, if I am one, what it means to say I’m not and what it means to say I am.

Clearly there is still a lot to figure out.

But, there are two things I have landed on quite solidly.

  1. I believe there is something bigger than us. I can say that I do believe in God. How to define that god and what to do with “Jesus” is still a part of my journey.
  2. (And here’s where all of the spiritual talk actually ties to today’s topic:) I believe that the foundation of my spirituality is love. No matter where I land on religion, no matter where my journey takes me in what I believe about Jesus, no matter what god ends up being to me, LOVE IS THE KEY TO IT ALL.

In fact, love may be enough of a “religion” for me. It would be hard to argue that the tenet of “love your neighbor” can ever be a bad thing. If I go through my whole life and can say that I loved people well, that could be enough.

heart-with-lightNow, this does not mean that I love well all of the time (or even most of the time. Just ask my husband! :-D), but it does mean that at the very core of what I think it means to be human, loving each other is the most important thing.

How does this show up in every day life?

  • Loving my husband enough to stay present in conflict. (Still working this love!)
  • Loving the guy who cut me off enough to not flip him off. 😯
  • Loving the person who has betrayed me enough to have compassion. (This does not mean that I do not have boundaries after a betrayal, but that I do try to see something from another’s point of view, no matter how absolutely certain I am that I am right.)
  • Loving the homeless man by not turning my eyes from his.
  • Loving my clients by offering honest (even if painful) feedback and total support.
  • Loving the person on the other end of a painful conversation by really listening.
  • Loving my friends by celebrating their successes.
  • Loving the alcoholic by having solid boundaries and kind compassion.
  • Loving the man who killed my friend by accepting his apology and considering what this is like for him (having to live with what he’s done for the rest of his life in jail.)
  • Loving myself enough to keep the tanks full, so to speak, so that I can love others.

As I write that list, I am aware of how short I fall of really loving in the way I want to. But my quest, my lifelong journey, is to love the best way I can. I desire to grow my ability to love more and more as each day passes.

Come to think of it, Jesus, whether man, prophet or God, is a pretty darn good example of solid, consistent, boundaried, bold love.

Hmmm. That give me some fodder for the next blog post on spirituality!

Until next time, may you LOVE your life today.



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Renae C. July 18, 2010 at 8:00 pm

Powerful Dani…. I will get back to this one – I don’t have it in me today – but I linked to another post that is eloquent about love too. Thanks for sharing your journey… it helps the rest of us to know we aren’t out there on our own.

Rick Hamrick July 19, 2010 at 12:44 am

I’m encouraged to see how many ways you have discovered where love is a foundation for your response to life, both its challenges and its joys, as love can answer both situations richly and powerfully.

Dani, I hope you won’t mind if I refer anyone interested to something I wrote more than a year ago which directly addresses the topic.

Yvette Hileman July 19, 2010 at 2:55 pm

I love this topic as well! Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this essential emotion! Love is so key in keeping us connected to our world as we construct it. Love for nature, fellow man, self, and family is what keeps me happy and sane!

Annie Wolfe July 19, 2010 at 7:45 pm


I believe in love.

I believe in God.

I believe God is love.

I believe we were made to be loved.

I believe we all desire love.

I believe that when love is not present in our experiences, our faith is damaged and our hope is diminished.

I am both searching for God, and the love that I believe he is.

I believe I will search for a lifetime.

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